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With That Being Said

With That Being Said is a long conversation between friends, edited into weekly episodes that give you 2 therapists' take on life, love, and everything in between. Hosted by Esther Boykin, LMFT and Erica Turner, MS, this podcast is dedicated to giving you fun, smart, relatable, interesting, honest & actionable insights on the things that matter most in this life. Every episode is designed to help you learn a little more about living a happier life and having healthier relationships. Most episodes are not about therapy but Esther and Erica always bring a fresh and honest perspective on therapists' really think about off the clock. Esther and Erica hope that this peek inside the conversations between therapists will shift the perception of therapy and therapists as something to be secretive about to something totally worth sharing. The show features guest experts and lots of laughter because the best conversations are the one's we have with our friends. So with that being said, isn't it time for you to join the conversation?
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Sep 6, 2016
#13 Alone in the Burbs with Traci Ruble

 

Today we are joined by Traci Ruble of Psyched in San Francisco and the founder/director of Sidewalk Talk.

Traci is one of those rare people who I (Esther) immediately clicked with on seemingly every level- basically she rocks.  Tune in as Erica gently pulls us out of our mutual suburban angst with some spot on insights on life in the city.  We will also talk about the joys of listening - on the street and in our offices!

Be sure you follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.

Show Notes

 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Read Erica's picks- 

What's Not Yours is Not Yours by Helen Oyeyemi

 

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

We want to hear your thoughts!

Don't forget to send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS Tag us and use the hashtag #WithThatBeingSaid 

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook 

Erica: Twitter | Facebook |Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

 

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Aug 23, 2016

Today we are joined by Mo Seetubtim, founder of the blog Brandmentalist and creator of The Happiness Planner.

Mo's passion for living with intention and passion is inspiring and the complex relationship with her parents bring a refreshing perspective to what could've been just another pretty blog.  Don't miss her beautiful and thoughtful messages- follow her on Twitter and Instagram.

Show Notes

 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Listen to Erica's pick- 

Reply All podcast - Episode #64: On the Inside

 

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

In this episode we talk about the complexities of ending therapy.  Do you have a story about terminating therapy?  Who decided it was time to take a break? Was it a permanent thing or did you go back again later?  We want to hear your thoughts!

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS Tag us and use the hashtag #WithThatBeingSaid 

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook 

Erica: Twitter | Facebook |Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

 

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Aug 9, 2016
#11 Your Therapist is Anxious with Jodi Aman

 

Today we are joined by Jodi Aman, therapist and author of You 1, Anxiety 0: win your freedom back from fear and panic.

Don't forget to follow her on Twitter and Instagram for more tips and encouragement to embrace what you feel on your journey to emotional freedom.

 

Show Notes

 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Watch Esther's pick- {can't see the Sidewalk Talk video? click here.}

 

Watch Erica's pick - {can't see the empathy video? Click Here}

 

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

We want to hear your thoughts! Leave your feedback on this week's therapist problems in the comments.

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS Tag us and use the hashtag #WithThatBeingSaid 

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook 

Erica: Twitter | Facebook |Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

 

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Jun 16, 2016
#10 It Takes a Village with Sequoia Blodgett

Today we are joined by entrepreneur Sequoia Blodgett, star of ABC Family's StartUp U and founder of 7AM Life.

Check out episodes of StartUp U online be sure to visit www.7am.life.  You can also follow Sequoia on Twitter and Instagram.

Show Notes

 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Read Erica's pick- 

Ghettoized by Jill Leovy

 

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Interested in the article Esther mentioned about swearing?  Here it is... 5 Reasons I Don’t Give An Eff About Swearing In Front Of My Kids by Kate Levkoff (@nursingcursing)

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS Tag us and use the hashtag #WithThatBeingSaid 

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook 

Erica: Twitter | Facebook |Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

 

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Jun 2, 2016
#9 Adulting is Hard

Today we are joined by 4 smart, funny, and brutally honest college students for a frank discussion on what it means to really become an adult in the modern age. 

 

Show Notes

 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Read Esther's pick- 

Fascinate: Your 7 Triggers to Persuasion and Captivation by Sally Hogshead

Want to get a free report on your 7 triggers?  Visit www.howtofascinate.com and use promo code JOY-EstherB

Read Erica's pick- 

Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg

 

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS Tag us and use the hashtag #WithThatBeingSaid 

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook 

Erica: Twitter | Facebook |Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

 

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Feb 1, 2016
Today we are joined by Minaa B. of RespectYourStruggle.com.  Minaa is a on a mission and the first day of Black History month is the perfect time for us to share it.  As therapists, black women, and human beings in general we admire her courage in sharing her personal struggle and love how she has used it to give voice to so many others.  Tune in now as we talk about how #TherapyIsNotADirtyWord and why talking about our struggle is the first step to overcoming it. respectyourstruggle

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SHOW NOTES

Be sure to visit RespectYourStruggle.com to see fresh new site and pick up your super cute RSY tee today!.  You can also find Minaa on Twitter and Instagram.

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

This American Life was Erica's RLW for today and while the entire podcast is wonderful we are particularly sharing episode #567.  A powerful, disturbing, and incredibly insightful glimpse at what it's like inside of an abusive relationship.  The statistics related to abusive relationships, including among teens, is frightening but as we discussed with Minaa, the first step to making changes is understanding what the real struggle is. And as a special bonus... I also have a RLW today!  The Pocket Therapist by Therese Borchard is one of my favorite books to give and read.  Every chapter is short but packed with the best of the best advice she's gotten from varied experiences in therapy.  Perfect when you are having a rough day, whether you're in therapy or not.

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Today we talked about our real and perceived duty to be ambassadors for therapists everywhere.  One of the biggest obstacles for many people who are hesitant to try therapy is the misconceptions of who and what therapists are like. Listen in as we discuss how we work to find balance between being a non-judgmental listening ear and maintaining good boundaries. Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | Facebook | Instagram {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

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Jan 25, 2016
It's seems rather apropros that in the aftermath of one of the east coast's worst snow storms that today's episode is all about wearing pajamas all day!  Erica and I are joined by Tara Jefferson of the YoungMommyLife.com to talk about self-care, motherhood, and why sometimes pajamas all day is the only answer.

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SHOW NOTES

You can find more about Tara at TheYoungMommyLife.com.  Be sure to follow her on Twitter and Instagram for more information on her excited new venture the Self Care Box {you want one! trust us}

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

The Hidden Brain podcast {if you are interested in the episode on Switch Tracking, it's episode 1}

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Today we talked about what to do when your couple friends are always bickering when you go out.  It's a tricky balance but we have some solutions for you to consider. And if you are thinking about ditching  that  couple, read this for a quick reminder that even though they may annoy you, having couple friends is actually good for your relationship. Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | InstagramFacebook {<--look.. Erica's on Instagram now!!!}

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Jan 18, 2016
  Seems like an obvious question... don't we all want to be happy?  Maybe so but we also put up some serious barriers to happiness, including how we choose to define and how we open our heart to it (or not). On today's show we are joined by speaker, consultant, coach, and 'happiness curator', Chianti Lomax for a serious discussion of what it really means to be happy.  Chianti has a passion for positive psychology and millennial which combines into a pretty awesome interview. Tune in now to discover who really wants to be happy and simple everyday things you can do to make it happen!  We even stumbled upon a great new mantra... [caption id="attachment_1857" align="aligncenter" width="300"]Kindness doesn't cost a damn thing, sprinkle that shit everywhere photo credit www.jenngietzen.tumblr.com[/caption]

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SHOW NOTES

Follow Chianti on Twitter and Instagram and be sure to check out her gorgeous new blog and website for more information on her happiness curation services.

RLW {Read Listen Watch}:

Rising Strong by Brene Brown and because we love her so much... here's my favorite of all her books and a cool new free course she's offering! The Gifts of Imperfection and The Anatomy of Trust {free e-course}  

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Today we talked about the assumption that therapists are really mind-readers with therapeutic Jedi mind control.  Sadly we do not have the powers but that doesn't stop people from treating us like we do... Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | Facebook

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Jan 11, 2016
It feels almost blasphemous as a mom to say that motherhood isn't everything in my life... and yet it's not.  And I don't think it should be. {gasp} On today's episode of With That Being Said, Erica and I chat with Maimah Karmo about the role passion, purpose, and parenthood have in her life and the lives of women everywhere.  Maimah is a philanthropist, author, speaker, and pretty amazing mom who believes that there is more to life than just meeting the needs of others- even if "others" means your kids. Even if you aren't a mom, the conversation on this episode will still resonate.  We all know what it is to set aside our dreams for another person out of love- join the conversation and let's talk about why that might not be such a a good idea. As a special bonus for my blog readers- I want to give you all free access to one of my favorite "strength/personality quizzes.  Sally Hogshead's How to Fascinate book and corresponding quiz are... well, fascinating.  She approaches the idea of 'what should i do with my life' from the perspective of not how you see yourself but rather how others experience you.  It's an eye-opening look at how you influence the world around and a great glimpse into what your purpose might be. Simply go to www.howtofascinate.com/you and enter Access Code JOY-EstherB to take a free assessment.  I'd love to hear what you learn about yourself in the process... leave your comments below.

SHOW NOTES

Follow Maimah on Twitter and Instagram and be sure to check out Bliss Magazine and Tigerlily Foundation

RLW {Read Listen Watch}

The Mindy Project

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Today we talked about bumping into your therapist outside  of the therapy room- while it's really no big deal, I thought I'd share this article with a few tips on what you might expect. Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | Facebook

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Jan 11, 2016
Motherhood Isn't Everything with Maimah Karmo {Episode #5}

It feels almost blasphemous as a mom to say that motherhood isn't everything in my life... and yet it's not.  And I don't think it should be. {gasp}

On today's episode of With That Being Said, Erica and I chat with Maimah Karmo about the role passion, purpose, and parenthood have in her life and the lives of women everywhere.  Maimah is a philanthropist, author, speaker, and pretty amazing mom who believes that there is more to life than just meeting the needs of others- even if "others" means your kids.

Even if you aren't a mom, the conversation on this episode will still resonate.  We all know what it is to set aside our dreams for another person out of love- join the conversation and let's talk about why that might not be such a a good idea.

As a special bonus for my blog readers- I want to give you all free access to one of my favorite "strength/personality quizzes.  Sally Hogshead's How to Fascinate book and corresponding quiz are... well, fascinating.  She approaches the idea of 'what should i do with my life' from the perspective of not how you see yourself but rather how others experience you.  It's an eye-opening look at how you influence the world around and a great glimpse into what your purpose might be.

Simply go to www.howtofascinate.com/you and enter Access Code JOY-EstherB to take a free assessment.  I'd love to hear what you learn about yourself in the process... leave your comments below.

SHOW NOTES

Follow Maimah on Twitter and Instagram and be sure to check out Bliss Magazine and Tigerlily Foundation

RLW {Read Listen Watch}

The Mindy Project

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Today we talked about bumping into your therapist outside  of the therapy room- while it's really no big deal, I thought I'd share this article with a few tips on what you might expect.

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid

Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

Erica: Twitter | Facebook

With That Being Said, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

Jan 4, 2016
Today Esther and Erica are joined by Steve Cooper of HitchedMag.com to talk all things married life. Listen in as they talk about the ups and downs and genuine joys of being a couple and investing in a healthy relationship. And find out why Steve is in fact the 'Hugh Hefner' of marriage!  It's by far the most accurate and favorite nickname of any guest so far...  

SHOW NOTES

HitchedMag.com | Follow Steve on Twitter @HitchedMedia

RLW {Read Listen Watch}

Read Masters of Love in The Atlantic Listen to Science of Relationships Watch Tell Me You Love Me

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS #WithThatBeingSaid Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | Facebook

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Dec 30, 2015
Today Esther and Erica tackle the sometimes ambiguous idea of awareness. With their guest expert, Laura Probert, we discover that "the difference between living a life that feels meh and living a life that feels magical" is learning to be vulnerable. Laura is a physical therapist, poet, and wellness expert who has made it her mission to help people get out of their heads and into their bodies. Join the conversation and listen in as Laura explains why awareness is "the difference between living a life that feels meh and living a life that feels magical".

SHOW NOTES

Laura Probert: www.lauraprobert.com Twitter @LiveHealTKD

Meet Laura IRL along with Esther and Erica at Cocktails and Conversations on Love in DC {Jan 20,2016}

RLW {Read Listen Watch} Song Exploder Podcast THERAPIST PROBLEMS: ASMR {Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response} Esther's Playlists This is what I listen to when I need to shut out the world so I can write And this is what I listen to when I'm mad at my hubby but probably shouldn't be   
Dec 21, 2015
#2 Marriage is not that hardMarriage is work but is it really that hard?  Esther and Erica discuss the joys and challenges of married life, which may not be hard as we seem to think it is.  Join the conversation as we talk about all the ways we make the 'work' of marriage harder than it has to be. And don't miss this episode's RLW {Read, Listen, Watch} where Erica shares her thoughts on the interesting way we all hold our own truths... especially in marriage.

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SHOW NOTES

So first an apology to Chrissy {not Christy!} Teigen!  Sometimes we get the names wrong but we are still big fans

RLW {Read Listen Watch}

Fates & Furies THERAPIST PROBLEMS: Don't forget to go send us your questions and suggestions for THERAPIST PROBLEMS  Esther: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Erica: Twitter | Facebook With That Being Said podcast is available on iTunes. With That Being Said podcast is available on Stitcher With That Being Said podcast is available on Player,FM
Dec 13, 2015
#1 Love is Not a Drive-Thru

Today Esther Boykin and Erica Turner are joined by writer, speaker, and dating expert, Kevin Carr. Kevin chats with us about all the reasons love is not a drive-thru and why killing your dreams is sometimes the key to finding your happily ever after.

 

SHOW NOTES

Kevin Carr:
www.kevinscarr.com
Twitter @Kev_Carr

Instagram #WhatI’mLearningAboutDating @kev_carr

Meet Kevin IRL along with Esther and Erica at Cocktails and Conversations on Love in DC {Jan 20,2016} 

RLW {Read Listen Watch}

The Man Who Wasn’t There

Body Integrity Identity Disorder is the illness where you believe that a limb is not your own

THERAPIST PROBLEMS:

Don't forget to go watch Nightcrawler

Tweet Esther @estherbmft and Erica @GTAtherapists with your comments and questions

Dec 9, 2015
#0 - With That Being Said, Welcome to Our Podcast

With That Being Said is a long conversation about life, love, and everything in between. Hosted by therapists and relationship experts Esther Boykin and Erica Turner this podcast dedicated to giving listeners smart, fun, insightful advice on life.

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